What needs to die—so you can fully live? 🌱
"Every night, I choose to die…I let my ego, my known 'self' die, and I wake up each day, ready to be reborn."
Recently, while co-facilitating an Entrepreneurs’ Organization Retreat in Mexico, my co-facilitator Jesús shared a practice that struck me deep in my core:
"Every night, I choose to die… it’s not easy, but I let my ego, my known 'self' die, and I wake up each day, ready to be reborn."
At first, I just listened.
Then, the weight of it settled in.
What would it mean to let the parts of ourselves that no longer serve us die each night?
What would it look like to wake up lighter, freer, untethered to old fears and patterns…or even identities we work so hard to justify and defend?
I kept coming back to this:
So much of what keeps us from fully living isn’t what’s happening around us—it’s what we’re unwilling to release.
And when I did, something shifted:
✨ The fear loosened its grip—but it didn’t leave.
✨ Instead, it sharpened my awareness. Made every moment richer, brighter, more alive.
✨ It made me stop waiting for life to happen—and start choosing it, now.
✨ It made me ask: What am I still holding onto that’s keeping me from fully living?
And I don’t think I’m alone in this.
Most of us are gripping onto something—whether we realize it or not.
A belief. A fear. An identity we’ve outgrown.
Maybe for you, it’s…
💭 "I am someone who always struggles."
💭 "Who I am is not enough."
💭 "I can’t let this go—what if I lose everything?"
But what if you let that version of yourself die?
Not all at once. Not forcefully.
But gently, like an exhale. Like an old weight slipping off your shoulders.
What if, every night, you laid down your fears—so that every morning, you could wake up as something more?
There’s something fascinating about oyster farming in New Zealand.
Long lines are dropped into the ocean, and oysters—tiny, free, unanchored—attach themselves.
They grow there. They harden there.
And eventually, they are farmed and harvested.
But what they don’t realize is—they could let go.
They could release themselves into the open ocean, into movement, into life.
But they don’t.
And neither do we.
We grip onto what we know, even when it keeps us small, stuck, afraid.
We hold onto who we were, even when it keeps us from becoming who we could be.
We forget that we have the power to unhook—to step into something bigger, freer, more expansive.
So, I’ll ask you:
👉 Where are you holding on so tightly that it’s keeping you from fully living?
Scarcity: The Fear That’s Hard to Release
For me, scarcity is something I have had to unhook from again and again.
I grew up hearing:
"We may have this today—but we may not be able to tomorrow."
It was meant to teach me gratitude.
Instead, it wired me for anxiety, control, and the fear of not having enough.
And I don’t think I’m alone in this.
Scarcity doesn’t just show up around money.
For some, it’s about Love. Stability. Security. Worth.
It’s the quiet belief that whispers:
"I must hold on. I must play it safe. I must grip tighter—because what if I lose everything?"
And yet, here’s what I know:
The more we hold on in fear, the more we lose in presence.
It’s like an app running in the background, draining energy we don’t even realize we’re spending. And unless we consciously shut it down, compassionately close it out—it keeps pulling us away from life.
What Needs to Die—So You Can Fully Live?
I’ll be honest: This is a daily practice.
I don’t do it perfectly. I get stuck, I forget, I grip too tightly.
But there’s a whisper in me that always nudges me back to presence.
And so today, I’m pausing.
To ask myself:
✨ What am I gripping too tightly?
✨ What am I afraid to release?
✨ What belief, pattern, or identity am I willing to let die—so I can fully live?
And I invite you to do the same.
A Space to Explore This Together
I believe in making space for these conversations.
For pausing.
For sitting with the unknown instead of avoiding it.
For letting ourselves ask the hard questions, so we don’t sleepwalk through life.
And that’s why I created Calm & Connect.
A space for stillness. For noticing.
For letting go of what doesn’t serve us—and choosing what does.
If this resonates, come sit with me.
🌿 Join us in Calm & Connect.
💡 Looking for deeper work?
Let’s explore 1:1 coaching or an upcoming retreat.
The Key to Growth Isn't Adding More…🔑
Growth doesn’t start with adding more. It starts with releasing.
Have you ever felt like the very thing that once saved you is now holding you back? That’s where I found myself recently.
I sat down to reflect on two areas of my life where I deeply want transformation. My nature is to act—make plans, set goals, do something, anything. But I knew this time was different. The shift I was craving couldn’t come from doing more.
Because here’s what I keep learning: Growth doesn't start with adding more. It starts with releasing.
As I reflected, I saw how much I was carrying—beliefs and stories that once felt like anchors, giving me stability in the storm. But now, they’ve become the raft I’ve outgrown. They served me when I needed them, but as I face the next chapter, I realize they’re holding me back from scaling the mountain ahead.
And let me tell you—letting go isn’t easy. That raft is familiar, comforting, even part of my identity. But the weight of it keeps me tethered to where I’ve been, instead of helping me climb toward what’s next.
✨ What’s Tethering You?
We all carry things—thoughts, habits, relationships, or roles that no longer fit. Sometimes, it’s fear of the unknown. Other times, it’s the comfort of what’s familiar, even if it’s no longer helping us grow.
But here’s the truth: to grow, we must create space.
This isn’t about discarding everything. It’s about discerning what’s worth carrying forward—and what’s time to release.
🌿 What beliefs, habits, or roles no longer serve you?
🌱 What would it feel like to let them go and create space for the life you’re craving?
For me, letting go has been about trusting that what’s ahead is worth the discomfort of releasing what no longer serves. It’s terrifying, yes. But it’s also freeing. It’s about replacing fear with curiosity, and control with trust.
This year, I’m stepping into what feels like uncharted territory. And I’d love to walk this path with you.
Letting Go Is Where It Begins
If you’re ready to reflect and release, join me this weekend:
🌟 Calm & Connect: This Saturday, we’ll explore these very ideas—how to create space and step forward with clarity. Join us at 10 AM CT. Sign up here.
🌿 Unbound Retreat: On Sunday, January 26th, I’m co-hosting a transformative afternoon in Nashville to help you release what’s weighing you down and create space for renewal. Acupuncture, coaching, and mindfulness will guide us in this intimate, healing experience. [Reserve your spot here.]
Let’s release what no longer serves us, realign with what matters most, and rise together.
P.S. I’d love to hear—what are you releasing? What are you making space for? Reply to this email or join us Saturday to share.
If this resonates deeply, I’d love to invite you to Unbound, an intimate retreat for reset and renewal on Sunday, January 26th, from 1-5 PM CST in Nashville.
This half-day retreat is about:
🌿 Releasing what no longer serves.
🌱 Planting seeds for what’s next.
✨ Gaining clarity and setting aligned intentions for the year ahead.
Through mindfulness, coaching, and acupuncture, we’ll create space for transformation—together.
👉 Just a few spots left! Reserve your seat here ♥️
This Week’s Calm & Connect
Additionally, for everyone, this Saturday, January 25th, at 10 am CT, we’ll gather again for Calm & Connect. These sessions are an opportunity to pause, reflect, and find clarity in a supportive space.
Together, we’ll explore the questions that help us move forward with intention—leaving behind what no longer serves and creating space for renewal.
🎉 40 Years, New Beginnings, and Rising from the Ashes 🎉
There were moments that felt like standing in a pile of ashes, unsure of what would rise. But here's the thing about ashes: they make way for new growth, and when the time is right, something beautiful begins to emerge.
Today is a special day—it's my 40th birthday! 🤩
Birthdays, for me, are an opportunity to pause, reflect, and celebrate—not just the milestones but the moments that shape us, the challenges that stretch us, and the community that holds us through it all.
If you had told me at the start of 2024 what this year would hold, I don't know that I would have believed you. It began with uncertainty and the need to release a future I deeply wanted.
There were moments that felt like standing in a pile of ashes, unsure of what would rise. But here's the thing about ashes: they make way for new growth, and when the time is right, something beautiful begins to emerge.
🔥 2024 taught me that letting go, though painful, creates space for the most incredible evolutions.
Here's what I'm celebrating as I step into 2025:
Roots in Nashville: Finding a place that feels like home and embracing a city and community that has welcomed me with open arms.
Growth in Coaching: Deepening my work with my clients and execs at CHIEF as I moved towards - and applied for my Master Certified Coach (MCC) credential (held by less than 5% of coaches!), a journey that has refined my practice and expanded my heart.
Launching The Reset Room: A dream realized—a multi-sensory experience integrating neuroscience, mindfulness, and healing music to transform stress and inspire renewal.
These aren't just achievements. They're reflections of a year that asked me to trust the process, sit in discomfort, and make space for something new.
What are you celebrating as we step into 2025?
🌟 What challenges did you face head-on?
🌟 What growth are you most proud of?
🌟 What are you ready to release as you make space for what's next?
So often, we focus on what we want to change, but let's also take a moment to honor what we've already accomplished—the ways we've shown up, stretched ourselves, and grown.
Exciting Opportunities to Reset and Renew
1️) Calm & Connect: Returning in 2025 (New Zoom + Calendar Link!) I'm thrilled to announce that Calm & Connect is BACK, starting Sunday, January 12th, at 10 am CT, and will run every other week!
🗓 Special Note: The second session will take place on Saturday, January 25th, before returning to our usual rhythm.
These gatherings are a chance to ground yourself, find clarity, and connect with a community of like-minded individuals. Join whenever you can—your presence is always welcome.
👉 Mark your calendar and sign up here to be sure you get the links and can add it to your calendar! 😍
I'm overjoyed to announce UNBOUND, an intimate retreat for reset and renewal. Together, we'll embrace the healing power of mindfulness and connection, leaving you inspired and ready to step into the year ahead. I hope you can join and feel free to share with others in the Nashville area!
📍Nashville, TN
🗓 January 26, 2025; 1-5 PM CST
🌟 Learn more and reserve your spot here.
🤝 Together, Let's Rise 🌅
To anyone feeling like they're in the ashes right now: I see you. Hold on. Trust that something beautiful is rising within you.
Thank you for being part of this journey—through the highs, the lows, and the moments in between. Your support and presence mean more to me than words can express.
Here's to stepping into 2025 with clarity, courage, and a heart full of possibility. Let's celebrate the growth we've cultivated and the potential waiting to bloom.
"The Day Came..." Embrace Discomfort and Unlock True Growth
Growth isn't a one-time leap; it's an ongoing process. In those moments of discomfort, we often find ourselves at a crossroads: ill we numb ourselves with distractions or will we choose to lean in, even when it feels like too much?
We've all been there—pushing forward, trying to reach the next level of success, only to find ourselves in the middle of extraordinary discomfort. So much so, that momentarily we begin to question ourselves: "Am I really cut out for this? Who do I think I am? Maybe I should just be satisfied with the status quo, or what I've already achieved."
It's that feeling that can stop us in our tracks. And if we listen to it, a small (or large) part of us starts to shrink.
But here's something important to remember: discomfort is not a roadblock. It's an invitation to grow.
Growth isn't a one-time leap; it's an ongoing process. In those moments of discomfort, we often find ourselves at a crossroads: Will we numb ourselves with distractions—blame, anger, shopping, eating, or overworking? Or will we choose to lean in, even when it feels like too much?
This is where transformation happens. When we embrace discomfort instead of avoiding it, we create space for real growth. We realize that what we've been avoiding is the very thing that will help us blossom.
The Power of Embracing Discomfort
Time and again, I see this with my clients. They reach incredible milestones—scaling their businesses, growing their teams, and expanding their lives. But at some point, they all hit a breaking point, where they are asked to stretch further, to grow beyond what they thought was possible.
It's in these moments—when we lean in, reflect, pause, and face the discomfort—that true growth happens. Anaïs Nin captures this beautifully: "And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom."
It's not about having all the answers—it's about trusting yourself to take that first step into the unknown and letting the rest unfold.
I've Been There Too: The Reset Room Journey
This process of growth doesn't just apply to personal development—it's at the core of every successful venture. And trust me, I've been there too with The Reset Room.
As some of you know, I've been on an incredible journey with my partners, bringing this extraordinary vision to life. Our goal is to support organizations and high-stress environments like conferences and corporate offices with a space designed to address stress, wellbeing, and leadership in a transformative way.
But, like any true innovation, there have been plenty of "oh crap!" moments—moments of extraordinary discomfort, where we hold the dichotomy of both clarity and uncertainty. The truth is, in this pilot phase, we don't have all the answers yet. But that's exactly where the real opportunity lies.
I've had my own moments of insecurity and doubt with this project, wondering, “Am I really ready for this?” And yet, every time I take a deep breath, step back, and truly listen, the answer is a resounding YES. And as I navigate through the discomfort, I'm reminded of the profound impact The Reset Room has already had: The feedback has been incredible, and the ripple effects are already starting to show—people are walking away more grounded, more focused, and more equipped to handle the challenges that lie ahead.
It's through sitting with both the discomfort and the unknown that we create something far bigger than ourselves. When we embrace the not-knowing, we get to play, to imagine infinite possibilities, and to co-create with others who are just as invested in the vision.
What Are You Ready to Embrace?
So, I ask you: What discomfort are you avoiding? What challenges are inviting you to lean in, trust yourself, and take that first step toward the growth that's waiting on the other side?
Remember: It's not just about weathering the storm—it's about blossoming because of it.
If you're feeling ready to embrace that next level of growth—for yourself, your team, or your organization—I'd love to support you on this journey. And if The Reset Room feels like the space your organization needs to create lasting transformation, let's talk about how we can bring it to life together.
Here's to the courage to grow, the strength to lean in, and the beauty of what's on the other side.
P.S. If this resonates, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Drop me a note or comment, and let’s continue the conversation.
